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* men
* man : 인류 = mankind = humans (human은 형용사임)
* a man : 성인 남자 한 명 => men <-> a boy => Be a man!
* All men are created equal. 미국 독립선언문 => 인류 전체
* Be a man! 남자답게 굴라!
* He was not man enough to apologize 남자답게
* 'repect' = so-called respect (*따옴표의 의미)
# This month, the popular conservative podcaster Matt Walsh tweeted a thought that rapidly went viral, with approximately 18 million views. “All a man wants,” he wrote, “is to come home from a long day at work to a grateful wife and children who are glad to see him, and dinner cooking on the stove. This is literally all it takes to make a man happy. We are simple. Give us this and you will have given us nearly everything we need.”
* viral marketing 입소문 마케팅
* All a man : 한 사람의 남자
* grateful 고마워하는
* the stove 가스렌지
* literally 사실상 = basically, essentially
* all it takes 필요한 모든 것
* you will have given us nearly everything we need : 준 셈이다 (미래 완료)
=> 완료 : 상태의 느낌
* He'll go to China. 중국에 갈 것이다.
* He'll have gone to China. (일주일이라는 특정시점에) 그는 중국에 가고 없을 거야(없는 상태)
# The message was obviously trollish and intended to generate outrage. Bringing back “Leave It to Beaver” is not a serious strategy for renewing American masculinity. But it touched on an important question: How much should a man’s self-worth depend on the respect or gratitude of others?
* obviously 뻔한 것
* troll 악플, 악플러
* trollish 어그로 끄는 글, 사람들의 관심을 끄는
* serious 진지한, 생각이 깊은
* masculinity
he features and qualities considered to be typical of men OPP femininity Children’s ideas of masculinity tend to come from their fathers. boys trying to prove their masculinity
* masculine 남성다운
1 having qualities considered to be typical of men or of what men do OPP feminine They’re nice curtains, but I’d prefer something a little more masculine. She has a very masculine voice. Hunting was a typically masculine occupation.► see thesaurus at man2 in some languages, a masculine noun, pronoun etc belongs to a class of words that have different inflections from feminine or neuter words The word for ‘book’ is masculine in French.
* touch on = mention
* depend on = is determined by
# I raise this because an overwhelming amount of evidence — from suicide, to drug overdoses, to education achievement gaps — indicates that millions of men are in crisis.
And simply put, while many men demand respect, what they need is purpose, and the quest for respect can sometimes undermine the sense of purpose that will help make them whole. To put it more simply still: What men need is not for others to do things for them. They need to do things for others: for spouses, for children, for family and friends and colleagues.
* overwhelming 압도적인, 감당이 안 될 정도로 많은
* evidence 객관적인 느낌
* overdose 약물과다복용
* put simlpy 간단히 말해서
* write down = put down = set down
* quest = search
* undermine = weaken
* sense 머리로 하는 것, 의미, 기억, 판단
* whole 완전체
# Many Americans — especially in evangelical circles — are familiar with the saying, “Men want respect while women want love.” They may need both, but they sometimes want different things. The concept was popularized by a writer and pastor named Emerson Eggerichs, who wrote the book “Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs,” but it’s hardly an exclusively Christian concept. Eggerichs interviewed men and women and found that — in times of conflict — men overwhelmingly felt disrespected, not unloved, and if forced to choose, they would choose respect over love.
* evangelical
very eager to persuade people to accept your ideas and beliefs He spoke with evangelical fervour.
* circles 집단 => 사람들
* the saying 흔히 하는 말(들), 속담, 격언, 인용구
* the concept = the idea
* be popularized = be made popular
* pastor: 목사
a Christian priest in some Protestant churches the pastor of Carr’s Lane Congregational church Pastor Martin Niemoller
* desperately : 필사적인 / 절망적인
* exclusively = only
* feel disrespected : 무시당하는 느낌을 받다
* choose A over B : A, B 둘 중에 A를 택하다
# The demand for respect is a hallmark of much right wing discourse about masculinity. In this narrative, too many women don’t respect their husbands and the culture more broadly devalues men. Parts of this argument have merit. As the Brookings scholar Richard V. Reeves notes in his indispensable book, “Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It,” the phrase “toxic masculinity,” for example, is counterproductive. It teaches men there is “something toxic inside them that needs to be exorcised.”
* hallmark = typical feasure 전형적인 특징
* right wing 보수 = 변화 거부 = 전통 중시
= conservative = tradition-oriented
* a story 주장, 상황, 이야기(주고 받는)
It's a different story in Korea 한국에서는 상황이 달라요
= a narrative = conversation = discourse 오가는 이야기
* masculinity
the features and qualities considered to be typical of men OPP femininity Children’s ideas of masculinity tend to come from their fathers. boys trying to prove their masculinity
* more broadly : (미국 사회) 전반적으로
* merit(s) : 장단점의 장점은 셀 수 있음
* have merit = worth 가치
* indispensable = essential book
* toxic = very harmful
* counterproducive 역효과
* exorcise 악령을 내쫓다.
# Yet there is a danger in the quest for respect. Finding happiness in another person’s regard is elusive and contingent. After all, we have little true control over how others perceive or treat us, yet when we’re denied what we demand, we’re often filled with helpless rage.
* quest = in search for
* Give my regards to your sister.
* regard = attention 관심
* elude
He name eludes me. 그 사람 이름이 기억날 듯 말 듯 기억나지 않다
* contingent on = dependent on 외부요건에 의곤하다.
* After all 왜냐면
* They denied me a chance. 걔네들이 나에게 기회를 주지 않다.
= I was denied a chance.
# More important, a demand for respect or honor should be conditioned on being respectable or honorable. When a man demands respect without being respectable, that often looks like dominatio n and subordination. To elevate himself, he must belittle others.
But is respect a key to happiness and meaning? Let’s consider veterans. They form one of the most respected communities in America. The military is the second most respected institution in the United States (barely behind small businesses), and many Americans perceive vets as “more disciplined, patriotic and loyal than those who have not served.”
* A respect B
A is respectful
B is respectable 받을만 하다, 훌륭한 = admirable
* subordination 복종
* belittle 무시하다, little하게 보는 것
* form / are / represent (*보여준다)
* institution 기관, 집단
* disciplined = obey the rules 기강, 규칙을 준수하는 것
# Yet as The Times reported in 2021, the suicide rate for veterans is “1.5 times as much as the rate for civilians.” For younger post 9/11 veterans, the suicide rate is 2.5 times the rate for civilians. Men I served with have died by suicide. That’s a staggering toll for one of America’s most respected populations. Clearly, even profound familial and national respect is not enough to immunize men from deaths of despair.
* 1.5 times as much as the rate for civilians
2.5 times the rate for civilians.
* death toll 사망자수
* staggering 비틀 거리는 => 몸을 못 가누는 => 충격적인
* population 집단 => the Korean population 한국에 살고 있는 사람들
* profound 상당한, 깊은
* immunize / protect ~ from
# Yes, the trauma of combat accounts for some of this terrible toll, but not all. If you speak to struggling veterans, many will tell you that they have respect, but they don’t have purpose. That lack of purpose is often exacerbated by the loss of fellowship. My own experience helped me understand this powerful reality. Every person endures dark nights of the soul. One of the worst of my life took me by complete surprise. It was at the end of my deployment in Iraq, where I served from 2007 to
2008, the first evening after I departed Forward Operating Base Caldwell in Diyala Province to begin my long journey home.
* trauma : 장기적인 느낌
* account for 일부를 차지하다
* speak to = interview
* many will tell you = tent to
* is exacerbated = is made worse 악화되다
* ship
leadership = leaders, 리더로서의 자질/속성
friendship 리더십, 우정
* fellowship = fellows 동료들이 있는 상태
* dark nights of the soul : 삶의 어려운 시기
* endure 감내하다 (힘든데 참는 것)
* take sb by suprise = surprise me 놀라게 했다 // 의외 / 예상 못한
* deployment 파견, 파병
# I was a reservist, so I didn’t return with the unit but by myself. I’d longed for this moment I was returning to my wife and children! and yet I felt bereft. Empty. After almost a full year of having a very clear, decisive and delineated mission (with life and death often at stake), I was returning to a more complicated, confusing reality of often conflicting responsibilities one shared, I think, by most American men and women alike.
* reservist 예비군
* long for 염원
* bereft 상실감
feeling very sad and lonely His death in 1990 left her completely bereft.
* delineate
1 to describe or draw something carefully so that people can understand it The document delineates your rights and your obligations.2 to make the borders between two areas very clear The boundaries of these areas should be clearly delineated.
* at stake 위험한 상황
* conflicting 상충하는
* alike = both
very similar My mother and I are alike in many ways.
# I was confused by my feelings at the time. Now I understand. My mission was over. My brothers were gone. They were returning to Fort Hood in Texas. I was in Tennessee. Our relationship could never be the same. Veterans’ groups are supremely aware of this need for fellowship and purpose. “Next mission” is a common phrase in the veteran community, and it’s explicitly intended to help veterans find purpose in their lives. And the need is great. I’ll never forget the friend who told me, shortly after his deployment, “I’m not even 30, and I’ve already done the most significant thing I’ll ever do.”
* my brothers in arms 전우들
* supremely => extremely
* a common phrase 흔히 하는 말
* explicitly 대놓고 = cleary, obviously
# While his despair was genuine, he was fundamentally wrong. As a husband, father and entrepreneur, he’s forging his own path and leaving a new legacy. I rediscovered my own sense of purpose in my family and in a different cause, defending civil liberties in courtrooms across America. But it took time. Nothing at home was comparable to the sheer intensity of my deployment abroad.
* genuine 진심이었다
a genuine feeling, desire etc is one that you really feel, not one you pretend to feel SYN sinceregenuine interest/concern/desire etc The reforms are motivated by a genuine concern for the disabled. a genuine fear of invasion ‘Did he really?’ Her surprise seemed genuine.
* forge 단조 => 때려서 만듦(대장간) 더 강한 느낌 / 장기간에 걸쳐서 / 변형 => 위조 (forgery)
> cast, mold 주조 / 주형
* in a different cause from
cause 대의
시민단체활동, 왜 하세요? cause 대의 = purpose
* a guessing game
* Shares were down 3% on the day.
* be comparable to = is similar to
* sheer = 100% 순전히 온전히
# One does not have to join the infantry to find purpose in life, and a man can and should find immense meaning in the simple yet profound daily rhythms of fatherhood, friendship, healthy romantic relationships and an honest day’s work.
The true challenge to American masculinity is far upstream from politics and ideology. It’s not fundamentally about what ideological combatants say about men — that they have become “toxic” on the one hand, or “feminized” on the other. Rather the challenge is much more about a man finding his purpose, and there are few better purposes than helping the people you love walk through life.
* infantry : 땅을 기어다는 것 => 보병
soldiers who fight on foot an infantry regiment
* profound = deep 깊은 => 그 안에 여러가지가 있다
* daily rhythms = routines
* honest 땡땡이 안 치고 정직하게
* upstream : 상류, 연어, 거슬러 올라가는
go against the flow
* combatant = warrior 전사
* through life 처음부터 끝까지, 한 걸음 한 걸음(go through)
# Virtuous purpose is worth more than any other person’s conditional and unreliable respect. It is rooted in service and sacrifice, not entitlement. And those qualities bring a degree of meaning and joy far more important than the gifts that others — the “grateful” spouse who cooks dinner, the implausibly reverential children — can ever offer. What we do for others is infinitely more rewarding than what we ask them to do for us.
* Virtuous : 선의의
1 formal behaving in a very honest and moral way OPP wicked a virtuous man Sue considered herself very virtuous because she neither drank nor smoked.2 old use not willing to have sex, at least until you are married
* unreliable : 예측불가
unable to be trusted or depended on The car’s becoming very unreliable. an unreliable witness
* is rooted in = is based on
* entitlement 당연함, 권리 = I deserve respect.
I'm entitled to it = I have a right to it.
* a degree of 어느 정도의 => a degree of ~ for more imporant than ~ 보다 중요한 정도의
* grateful
feeling that you want to thank someone because of something kind that they have done, or showing this feeling OPP ungrateful
* revere = respect 존중
formal to respect and admire someone or something very muchbe revered as something He is revered as a national hero.
* implausible = unbelievable 설마
* rewarding 보람 = happy, 만족
# Q: My ex-husband invited our 19-year-old daughter to spend a long weekend in Las Vegas with him, his wife and their children. She was excited to go. She asked him how to pack, in case she needed dressy clothes. He told her to pack for hot weather and outdoor activities. After arriving, she discovered they weren’ t going to Las Vegas at all. They drove to Zion National Park for several days of hiking. But my daughter has heat induced asthma, and her father knows this! Hiking in 107 degree heat is a health risk for her. When she asked to stop, they refused and she w as raised not to argue with them. So she overused her rescue inhaler. Later, she discovered they intentionally misled her about the trip because they feared she wouldn’t come, and they wanted a family picture for their Christmas card. Please tell me I can call them out?
* excited 설레다, 상당한 기대
* pack 여러가지 짐을 (가득) 싸다
* in case 혹시 ~할까 봐
Just in case 혹시 몰라서
* in the case of ~ 경우
* dressy clothes 정장 같은 옷
* 라스베가스 근처도 안 간다 not ~ to L.V. at all
* hiking 등산
* induced = caused
* argue 말다툼, 논쟁, 의견대립
* be raised to ~ 가정교육
* mislead 오해를 불러일으키다
* call sb out : 비난한다, 욕하다
call out 큰 소리로 부르다 => 비난하다 / 해명, 요구
# A: I get your distress, Mom. But I am much more concerned that your young adult daughter has been raised, as you say, to acquiesce to the demands of others rather than to look out for her own well-being. Your (justified) anger about this single episode is small potatoes compared with that.
For you to call out your ex (or anyone else) who pushes your daughter into unsafe activities - after the fact! - does nothing to help her learn to navigate these challenges for herself. And that is the essence of adulthood. Don’t get me wrong: I get the pleasure of screaming down the phone, but that’s not your first order of business here.
* distress : 불만
* acquiesce to = 순종 = agree to
to do what someone else wants, or allow something to happen, even though you do not really agree with itacquiesce in/to Oil companies have been accused of acquiescing in the pollution of the ocean.
* look out for 돌보다 = take care of
* well-being = happiness // wellfare 정부의 복지
* You should look out for yourself. 너부터 챙겨라!
* justified 충분히 일리가 있는
* episode = incident = event = something that happened
* navigate 바닷속 암초를 피해서 헤쳐나가서 목적지에 도착하는 것
* after the fact! 때늦은 감이 있다! 사후
* I get the pleasure of 저도 좋아해요
* stare him down 그 사람을 노려봐서 눈을 내리깔기 만드는 것 (*기싸움에서 이기는 것)
* scream down 소리를 질러서 이기는 것
* your first order of business = your priority
# Talk to your daughter: “Honey, it’s never selfish to prioritize taking care of yourself over making other people happy. I may not have told you that enough. Put yourself and your safety first, and say no when people ask for things that aren’t right for you.”
Then talk through some smarter choices she could have made over the weekend: explaining the serious health risks to her of hiking in extreme heat; staying at the lodge; or even calling you for help with an early departure if her father and stepmother continued to be unreasonable.
Your role is to prepare your daughter for the world, not to fight her battles for her.
* smarter = wiser 머리가 좋은X => 상황판단을 잘 아는
* lodge 산장
* unreasnonable = make no sense
* prepare 준비
* prepare for 대비